When I was 14, a friend read my writing and told me it wasn't particularly interesting, entertaining, or well written. That was the end of my editorial career — for nearly 30 years.

The thing is, I didn't remember where the belief came from. I just stated it as fact: I'm not a good writer. It wasn't a thought I was having. It was a route my body already knew.

This is why insight alone so rarely creates change. We can know something is a limiting belief and still feel it as truth. The body needs to experience a new possibility — to sense that it's safe — before it will let us act differently. Cognition follows sensation, not the other way around.

So: think of something you've told yourself you can't do. Don't just think it — locate it. Where do you feel that certainty in your body?

Now ask yourself: is that a fact, or is it a very old feeling?