Healing our attachment styles

Healing From Our Attachment Disturbances

Many people come to therapy seeking to improve their relationships—whether with partners, family, friends, or colleagues. At Creative Arts Psychotherapy NYC, located in Flatiron, NYC, we take a holistic, experiential approach to healing attachment trauma. We integrate somatic therapy, creative arts therapy, and relational work to help clients reconnect with themselves and others in meaningful ways.

Attachment patterns—formed in early relationships—shape how safe, secure, or connected we feel in our relationships today. When attachment wounds go unaddressed, they can lead to fear, avoidance, or dependency in our connections. Healing these wounds requires more than just talk therapy; it involves engaging the body, emotions, and creative expression to access deeper layers of experience and shift ingrained relational patterns.

Through somatic therapy, movement, and creative arts-based interventions, we help clients process relational trauma and cultivate secure attachment. By retraining the nervous system and developing emotional awareness, clients learn to trust themselves and others, build self-worth, and establish boundaries that support their needs.

Developing secure attachments isn’t just about romantic relationships—it enhances friendships, professional dynamics, and family bonds. Safe, supportive relationships create the foundation for resilience, mental well-being, and a greater sense of belonging. Whether you're looking to strengthen your partnership, navigate family dynamics, or cultivate deeper friendships, our experiential therapy approach in NYC can help guide you toward relational healing and security.

How attachment styles affect relationships

Attachment Theory

Attachment theory is a psychological, evolutionary, and ethological theory concerning relationships between humans. Your attachment refers to the emotional connection that you developed with your primary caregiver during infancy. Attachment theory, a concept pioneered by British psychiatrist John Bowlby and American psychologist Mary Ainsworth, suggests that the quality of this initial bonding experience often determines your ability to form relationships with others and respond to intimacy throughout your life.


Attachment Styles

When we talk about attachment styles we are talking about the type of bond you formed with your primary caregiver and how that affects you in your adult relationships. There are 4 types of attachment styles but in essence, there are really only 2. Securely attached and Insecurely attached. With insecure attachment, you generally fall into one of 3 categories: anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or mixed/fearful-avoidant.

Attachment styles

Anxious attachment

Signs of anxious attachment in adulthood are:

You frequently feel worried or anxious about your relationships.

You desire emotional closeness and intimacy with your partner but also experience fear of rejection or abandonment.

You tend to become clingy or needy when your partner is unavailable or unresponsive.

You often seek reassurance from your partner and may become jealous when they interact with others.

You struggle with expressing your needs and emotions effectively in your relationships.

You find yourself frequently questioning your partner’s true feelings and love for you.

Intense emotions such as anxiety, sadness, or anger are common in your relationships.

Mixed/disorganized attachment

Signs of disorganized attachment in adulthood are:

You find it difficult to trust and depend on others.

You often feel that people are not there for you when you need them.

Being close to others can make you uncomfortable.

You tend to feel nervous or anxious when anyone gets too emotionally close.

In romantic relationships, your partners may want more intimacy than you feel comfortable with.

You experience extreme mood swings for no apparent reason.

Avoidant attachment

Signs of secure attachment in adulthood are:

You have difficulty in depending on others

You ack of support when needed

You are unable to trust others completely

You are uncomfortable being close to people

You feel nervous when someone gets too close

You feel unwilling to be emotionally intimate and vulnerable in romantic relationships, leading partners to feel frustrated.

Secure attachment

Signs of secure attachment in adulthood are:

You feel comfortable relying on others for support.

You are confident that others will offer their assistance when you need it.

You do not worry about the possibility of abandonment.

Building close connections with others comes naturally to you.

You do not frequently worry about someone becoming emotionally close to you.

You are comfortable when others rely on you for support.